Make Yourself Instantly More Attractive - re-post

February 3rd, 2012

A Simple Shift That Makes You
Instantly More Attractive
By Rori Raye, Author of best-selling eBook Have The Relationship You Want and free newsletter.


If you’re spending a lot of time and energy thinking about a guy, you might be alarmed to hear that it makes you less attractive…even if he doesn’t even know you’re thinking about him! Here, Rori Raye shares a simple Tool that shifts you out of over-thinking and makes HIM start thinking about you.

If you’re at all like me, a predictable thing happens to you when you start dating a new man you like. At first, you’re all excited, there’s a spring in your step, and you feel all aglow. People ask you what you’ve done differently.

But then, as you get to know him and become even more interested and invested in him, something else happens. You start to think about him all the time, you begin to worry that you might mess things up, and you’re constantly wondering what he’s thinking about you. You talk about him with all of your friends, dissecting his every move. But there’s no harm in it, because he knows nothing about this - right? Wrong.

OVER-THINKING CHANGES YOUR VIBE

When you think about a man too much, several things happen. Emotionally, you become drained from all the analyzing. You have less energy for the other things in your life - the passions and people that made you the person he was attracted to in the first place.

At the same time, your self-esteem goes down. Why? Because you start hanging your self worth on whether or not things will work out with this one guy. You go from the carefree, spirited woman you are to a fearful, worrying creature. And it shows. Believe it or not, a man can sense when you’re doing all this internal acrobatics about him. Your thoughts affect your feelings and your mood.

But telling yourself to stop thinking about him isn’t so easy. You need a two-pronged approach: a way to stop yourself from focusing all your attention on one man too soon…and a Tool to boost your self-esteem so that you’re being your most attractive you.

WHATEVER YOU DO, DON’T STOP DATING

Once you’ve found a man you think is a potential keeper, it’s tempting to clear out your calendar for him and not even consider other dates. But this is exactly what makes you become fearful and worried about whether he’s going to call and what’s going to happen next. Result: you can’t stop thinking about him, and he’ll pick up on the fact that you’re hinging on his every move.

That’s why you absolutely need to keep connecting with other men and going out on dates with them. When you do, you’re immediately taking the pressure off both you and the guys you’re seeing. It will stop you from over-thinking about any one man, which means you won’t have that clingy, fearful, unattractive vibe I talked about before. The fact that you’re on eHarmony means you have a fantastic Tool at your disposal to keep yourself from prematurely cutting off your options. Use it!

THINK OF YOURSELF AS THE PRIZE

Often, and especially when we meet a man we think could really be “it,” something inside us immediately starts to sabotage it. It’s what I like to call the “nasty voice,” and I’m sure you’re familiar with it - it’s that negative-thinking part of you that says you aren’t good enough to have all the love you deserve from a truly wonderful man.

Well, you do. And since I like visual Tools, I want you to think of your favorite dish. Let’s say it’s chocolate cheesecake. Think of everything you love about chocolate cheesecake and what makes it so wonderful. Who wouldn’t want a piece of that? Same goes for you. Now, whenever you are feeling overcome by feelings of inadequacy, I want you to immediately think of that dessert and say to yourself, “I am the chocolate cheesecake!”

I know this sounds silly, but believe me - it works. It’s so silly, that it will instantly lighten your mood and hence your vibe, so that you really do loosen up and become instantly more attractive. It’s similar to what happens when you’re walking down the street and you’re remembering that great kiss you had with your guy. Instantly, a smile washes over your face and people want to know: “What did you do differently?”

There are specific things you can do to raise your self-esteem that will make you irresistible to a man. To learn more, subscribe to Rori’s free relationship advice e-newsletter. You’ll discover a whole new way of relating to men that will make you feel better about yourself while you find the relationship of your dreams.

Monday Inspirations

January 23rd, 2012

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Monday InspirationsHere are 3 weekly ideas for song lyric, poems, instrumental titles, photos, video, short story or anything they inspire you to create.Use the title if you like & make something! It is yours for free. A gift. :-)

180.  The House With A Reputation
We were talking about the house and I asked “Aren’t you concerned someone might come into your yard uninvited?”  And this other person replied, “Naww, nobody dares to come up to my house.  They all stay away.  This is The House With A Repuation +

181.  Elmer Swenson - Pioneering Grape Breeder
Can you imagine having the job of cross breeding this grape vine with that grape vine to come up with a new breed that makes better wine, that’s a better table grape, more resistant to bugs and diseases?  That’s what Elmer Swenson - Pioneering Grape Breeder did.  :-)

182.  STIMULUS PLUS
Just heard a line in a song, “Please Mr. President, lay some stimulus on me.”  Made me smile.  Yeah, in 2010 the word STIMULUS has headline and title potential.  I’d much prefer that my baby would lay some STIMULUS PLUS on me ’cause this woman needs to rock out of her jeans!

Monday Inspirations

January 16th, 2012

Monday InspirationsHere are 3 weekly ideas for song lyric, poems, instrumental titles, photos, video, short story or anything they inspire you to create.Use the title if you like & make something! It is yours for free. A gift. :-)

178.  Hubba Hubba Happyness!
My friend used to sing a ditty went like this - Hubba Hubba Ding-Ding, He’s Got Everything Thing! - when she saw a hot guy.  I just read the words Hubba Hubba, stepped back and looked at them thinking - “Hey = they’re still using that expression in an upbeat sense.”  Added the Happyness with the twisted spelling and viola!  Hubba Hubba Happyness! is a great title to make a vocal showcase song.  Play up the hub-hub sound+++

178.  Godd’ess With Me
Godd’ess With Me is my mantra of late.  I equate it to God Is With Me only with a femine twist.  Godd’ess With Me can take you to a love potion #9 place as well as a gypsy moondance or a warrior stance.  Give femininity your twist up and let us hear.

179. Gettin’ Ready For Tomorrow
We just had a Sunday meal fit for the king and queen we are! Turkey sausage marinated in my own organically grown elderberry sauce, Karl’s refrigerator pickles made with donated cucumbers, beets and horseradish and a toasted store bought onion roll. Add some organic mustard and mmwwhhaw.   A culinary delight.

So he goes into the garage to do some diddling after diner and I follow him a bit later. “Hey Karl, it’s after 4pm, you’re done for today - OK?”  Really the time is nearly 8pm, the time he said he was going to start a fire in our outdoor fireplace & we’d sit and relax with the snaps and crackles.  I ask, “What are you doing in here?” and he replies, “I’m Gettin’ Ready For Tomorrow.”

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Checking out different video effects+

January 15th, 2012

Don’t Worry Be Happy (Cover) by Adam Wood from Create Change Studios on Vimeo.

Chicago Music Promo = sell digital downloads (re-post)

January 14th, 2012

Digital Downloads in a Digital World

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Digital Downloads in a Digital WorldSo i have been tossing this around a bit when it comes to Free Vs Pay Mp3 Downloads and they both have key benefit features depending on the situation. As for Signed Talent they have the PR and Promotions to sell the mp3 since they well frankly have a bigger bank account then most people. As for Unsigned / Independent Talent its a bit more difficult for you since you have to push and grind your song to sell to the general public and most of the time i have noticed talent thinks that people will just “find” the song for sale without having to promote there own song and or relying on itunes, or some other website to do the work for you (especially if its a free site).

Chicago Music Promotions has 2 options available in regards to sales and distrobution it has a digital vault and also store, the digital vault (is for mp3s) and the store is for tangible items (cds, tee shirts, or whatever tangible items you need to send to consumers). The digital store is setup so talent keeps 98% of all sales and the store talent keeps 100% since you have to ship out your own products to consumers. The system is setup to use paypal so talent must have paypal to sell digital mp3s or use the store features, once the site detects you have sold a song it will see how much sales you have got and it will send you the payment automatically, its setup so you have to sell at least $10 in mp3s on the site for the system to trigger to send the payment that reduces the paypal charges for fee’s, since if the system sent you money everytime 1 song was sold it would take out nice taxes on 99 cent sales so in reality you are making more money when the cap is reached at 10 dollars.

Personally i think Unsigned Talent and Independent Talent should have a medium scale for free vs pay downloads like half and half for music sales and freebies even yes some of your HOT songs give away for free let them cycle in the digital world and get more buzz and hype then put the song for sale after your free mp3 campaign. I suggest say when you come out wiith a new track give the song out for say 3 months let it build up hype and then change to to pay download or sales. and dont just sell it for over 1.00 right off the bat , i suggest keeping the price cheap like say 20-50 cents to start with as more sales are accumulated and you are building more buzz then raise it up in 10 cent incriments that is suitable i think and do not go over say 1.50 for the song download you are not Kanye West or Bieber so that wont work. Also keep away from itunes use independent music sites (like chicago music promotions) to curb the deduction they slap on you for selling your song, sure they have high traffic but most consumers who go to itunes want “major record label” artists or talent so its sort of hit or miss for unsigned talent.

That is my thoughts you should sign up to Chicago Music Promotions and sell your music here you keep 98% of all mp3 sales and 100% of all store sales.

Call For Poppy Rap Song @ musicdealers.com

January 14th, 2012

TV Commercial - Board Game

Music Call:

Our client is looking for a 30 SECOND piece for an upcoming TV commercial. This commercial is for a new board game directed at tweens and teens.

About The Game:
In the game, your game piece gets upgraded from a car to a sports car to a limo or a scooter to a dirt bike to a chopper. As you upgrade you earn more and win more. This game is all about living the millionaire lifestyle. Fast cars, yachts, choppers, leer jets (G6, ha ha!) , that sort of thing. The game board design is very blinged out.

They want a Poppy Rap song about showing off your money and sort of flaunting it in other’s faces. The lyrics could have something to do with ‘Upgrading’ your lifestyle. For the most part this is about just being fabulously, ridiculously rich.

Keep in mind - it needs to be fun and appeal to tweens.

Genre:

Pop Rap

Emotion:

Rich / Fun / Carefree

Vocals/Instrumental:

Vocals - Male

Explicit Lyrics:

No

Duration:

Short Clips

Other Info:

VERY IMPORTANT: The spot would be a buyout, which means you would retain only the writers share. The company would own the masters and the publishing. Something custom is ideal.

Please DO NOT Submit unless your song is around 30 seconds.

6 Things To Improve Your Change of Getting Your Music Synched…(re-post)

January 9th, 2012

6 things to improve your chances of getting your music synched…

Music synchronisation has long been something artists have had an inherent interest in due to the obvious rewards it offers, mainly the combination of both exposure and cash. Lovely.

It also has a history of successfully breaking artists into the mainstream, if it wasn’t for Levis I would have never discovered Babylon Zoo’s “Spaceman” and the consequences of that aren’t even worth contemplating.

So how do you get your music on the new iPod advert? Or in the Eastenders caff whilst two people have a miserable conversation about their miserable lives? Or on the new Paris Hilton show where she chooses an idiot from a line of idiots to be her new idiotic best friend?.

Well read on my friend and hopefully the following advice will help you on your merry way.

First of all let me just break down some of the lingo I’ll be chucking hither and tither during this post:

Synch (synchronisation) – The act of putting music on top of visuals (TV, Movies, Games, Films, Websites etc) or other audio (Radio adverts etc).

Creatives – The people who work for advertising agencies/production companies who have “the vision” of what they want their final product to look like.

The Client – the brand/company which the product (advert, TV programme, website etc) is being made for and who the creatives are working for

Music Supervisors – the people that look for the track after they’ve been given their direction by the creatives

1) Find people who know what they’re doing and let them worry about it.

Unless the Creatives have your track in mind already and they’re knocking on your door with a briefcase full of cash in one hand and a contract in the other then getting your music under their noses is not the easiest thing to do. So much so that it’s peoples full time jobs to get chummy with music supervisors in order to get the music they’re representing on their radar.

Your best option is to find a synch agent or service (like Sentric Music of course) who’ll be pushing your music on your behalf as they’re the people who’ll be wining and dining the music supervisors whilst slipping them a cheeky sampler CD in-between the fish and soup courses.

Music Supervisor - “Delightful Haddock that”

Synch Agent - “Indeed”

Music Supervisor – “What’s the soup again? Winter Vegetable Melody? I must say it’s awfully nice of you to take me out like this”

Synch Agent – “No worries! Just thought it’d be nice to catch up, and the soup is Leek and Potato I believe… Talking about Leek and Potato soup have you heard this new track we’re representing by (insert Welsh band’s name here)?”

As you can see it’s a fine art that shouldn’t be sniffed at.

DON’T PAY UPFRONT for a service like this. There are a few companies out there that will ask for cash in exchange for submitting your music for advertising campaigns and what not but I’d personally avoid these like the plague. Go for either a publishing service that will push your music for free (like us), wait until a synch agent approaches you due to their love of your music and ask to represent you or wait for a traditional publishing deal to come along. If either of the latter two do happen make sure you seek legal advice before signing anything and remember: copyright is king so always lease and never look to sign over your copyright for an extended period of time.

2) Know who owns your rights and make sure they get on with one another.

In the majority of cases the core readership of this blog will own the copyright to both the master recordings and the songs themselves. If this is the case then you have nothing to worry about as once you’ve given the OK to whoever is pushing your music for synch then no more permission needs to be sought after.

If you have a label you need to make sure they know that there is a publisher pushing your material for synchronisation as permission for the master rights is also essential before any use can be confirmed. With the contacts we have in America who have placed some of Sentric Music’s artists tunes on programs on VH1 and MTV they’ve always requested music that is ‘pre cleared on both sides’ which to put in laymans terms means that they can use it without having to get permission from both us and the master rights holders first. This is due to the hasty turnaround deadlines the TV industry works to and also because of the time difference between us and our Atlantic neighbours.

We have strong relationships with many record labels and once we’ve been given permission by both themselves and the artists to begin pushing the material then we go and do what we do best and in the majority of cases there is little problem. However there is one label in particular who haven’t been the best (they’re a major, no surprises there) and therefore we’re unable to push the artist’s music for synch, which is a pity as the album is bloody well marvellous!

3) Always record instrumental versions of your music.

Having an instrumental version of your material handy is always a brilliant thing to have and usually doesn’t take up much of your precious studio time (just take off the vocals, level it a bit and bounce it down so I’ve been informed – although my experience of sound technology is limited to me recording myself playing the intro to Plug In Baby on a second hand acoustic guitar through a mini disc player when I was a teenager… I could have been Timbaland).

If a creative really likes your track it’s very common for them to request an instrumental version as well so when they’re cutting up the music to fit the video they can work their magic. So have one available, and let whoever is pushing your music know!

4) Be patient.

Over any one advert there may be a whole gallimaufry (which is ‘loads’ to a normal person) of music supervisors searching and submitting music to earn their percentage so competition is fierce. You may be up against thousands of other songs so it’s going to be rare that your track is the perfect one for the placement. Or even if it is perfect the client might not want to use it anyway and go for something else that they want which may be for various reasons: helping out a friend at a record label, they think the other track will be a better match for their brand, or they might just be an idiot.

We recently submitted some music for a particular advert which worked extremely well and the creatives also agreed, but for a reasons only beknowst to her, the client wanted to use M People. Having to explain why M People are no longer culturally relevant in a world full of HD TV’s and Twitter isn’t the easiest thing to do without sounding downright patronising and we’re currently waiting back to hear her response.

I’ve known certain music supervisors who were in their jobs for years until they landed their first synch deal and this isn’t due to them being bad at their job or having a narrow musical knowledge, far from it, it can just genuinely take that long for something to pay off so just chill out and enjoy life in the interim ok?

5) Demos aren’t good enough

If you get to the stage where you’re submitting music for briefs then don’t bother sending in a demo version of your new song that you’re convinced “is going to break you” because firstly it’s not and secondly as soon as the music supervisor hears the opening four seconds and realises the production quality is poor then it’ll be deleted, never to be heard again. Here at Sentric Music we sometimes have to listen to hundreds of tracks with the purpose of whittling them down to an acceptable number to send to the client and if the production quality is poor then we simply can’t submit it.

6) Apply self censorship

Be sure to read the brief and to listen to any reference tracks mentioned by the creatives/music supervisors. If they say they’re looking for something that is both energetic and sounds like “Ace of Spades” by Motorhead then don’t send something in that is purely energetic, but sounds nothing like Lemmy and Co.

I know it’s exciting to imagine your music on an advert for a multinational brand and I know it’s exciting to consider that a placement on a worldwide advert could be worth upwards of £100k but if your music doesn’t fit the brief then simply don’t submit it.

If you submit something that doesn’t match you’re going to piss off the music supervisor who will then be less inclined to listen to anything you also send in the future.

So there you go – six tips to help you get your music synched.

I know I’ve mentioned Sentric a couple of times in this post already and I often stress that this blog is purely for advice and not for marketing but on this occasion I feel it is relevant so bear with me as I do a bit of plugging…

If you sign up to Sentric Music then you’ll automatically be added onto our briefing distribution list where you’ll receive regular requests for music of various genres. We have been successful in placing music on nationwide TV advertising campaigns, we regularly have music placed on TV programmes (with Hollyoaks being a repeat customer) and we have a number of companies within the States pushing our music for synch. As ever it’s free to join up and if you go to the About Us page on our website you’ll find testimonies from some of our hundreds of users. Right, marketing done.

What I’m listening to this week: Bombay Bicycle Club, The Jane Bradfords and And So I Watch You From Afar

What I’m reading this week: Catch 22 by Joesph Heller and Smalltown America’s blog

Stay tuned

7 Things I Want From Your Facebook Page… (a re-post)

January 9th, 2012

7 things I want from your Facebook page…

By Pursehouse – Follow me on Twitter.

Facebook. You’re on it. I’m on it. The vast majority of people who are ever going to show even the slightest bit of interest in your music whatsoever are on it. So you’d better ‘do’ it right eh?

Judging by the amount of emails I receive from musicians trying to flog their wares to me, it appears Facebook has now become the default destination for an artists’ social media presence which I’m all for. Despite my incessant joie de vivre; if you had asked me a year or so ago what I thought about Facebook as a tool for musicians I would have told you it still had some substantial flaws which now appeared to have been fixed by various apps and plug ins.

So, as ever, this blog has been written like all my other blogs have – basically this is what *I personally* want to see from your Facebook page as someone in the industry. I’ve no doubt there will be other posts out there which will delve into the nitty gritty features of Facebook Insights and what not, but you’re not going to find them here. Just a good few tips which, if followed, will stop me from shouting at my computer because after ten minutes of browsing I still can’t actually find where to listen to your goddam music.

  • 1) Sort out your Facebook URL

Have you got one of those Facebook web addresses that goes on longer than an aristocrats full name? If so all you have to do is head over to www.facebook.com/username and within seconds you’ll have a nice clean succinct URL. I’ve done it, that’s why ours is www.facebook.com/sentricmusic and not www.facebook.com/pages/OMFG/WTF/ROFL/ShouldHaveReadSentricsBlog/FENTON!

  • 2) Utilise plugins so I can listen to your music

You’d be shocked and appalled by the amount of artists’ FB pages I mosey on across to only to discover that they’ve not actually put any of their music up there for me hear. It’s baffling. Currently for my money there are three strong apps you should look at using

ReverbNation (as modelled by By The Rivers)

ReverbNation Facebook App

BandCamp (as modelled by Kowalski)

Bandcamp Facebook App

BandPage (as modelled by Bastille)

BandPage Facebook App

If you already have an account set up with one of these guys then utilise their app. They all do their job wonderfully and allow me to listen to your ditties.

  • 3) NEVER, EVER, EVER make me ‘Like’ your page to listen to your music

I hate this. Don’t do this. There is a strong chance I will just leave your page and not listen to anything if you make me do this. Sorry, but it’s the truth.

I understand why you do it; I truly do, so let’s meet in the middle and compromise:

Let me stream at least one track without commitment, but if I want to hear to more because I’ve enjoyed that song then it’s okay to make me ‘Like’ the page in order to listen.

That’s fair isn’t it?

  • 4) Include Tour Dates

Pretty basic stuff, but again, you’d be surprised the amount of pages I come across which doesn’t include this info. The plugins mention in point two should offer this, if not then check out the Songkick App which is rather lovely (as modelled by Antonio Lulic).

SongKick Facebook App

  • 5) Include information on who you work with

If you have a manager, an agent, a lawyer, regional press, national press, online press, butcher, baker, candlestick maker then list them so I know who believes in your music enough to put their name to it. You don’t have to list their contact details, or even their name if they don’t want you to, but at least the company. Seeing that an artist has a team around them instantly makes them more attractive to work with.

  • 6) Let me see what you look like

Good up to date photos or a video will do nicely here please. If I’m spending a day rooting through new music I’ll always watch a music video before streaming a song because a) in theory it should be one of your strongest songs or else why on earth would you go to the hassle of making a video for it? And b) I get to see what you look like. If you look like this gent Heino then I may move on (or fall in love with you instantly):

Heino. May he haunt your dreams/nightmares forevermore.

  • 7) Keep your fans and your friends separate

This is a side note which doesn’t really affect me on a day to day basis as a casual observer, but if you have your personal account and your artist account then don’t be that person who posts the same thing all the time on both. No one likes that.

If your friends chose to ‘Like’ your artist page then fool be them; you can spam the hell out of them with your musical shenanigans, but in the grand scheme of things remember that your friends aren’t your fans. The ones who want to know about your lunch via a status update where you showcase your rapier wit may not want to know about your day in the studio where you “lost my tuner LOL’.

There you go – follow those steps and I’ll be a happy bunny. Feel free to agree/disagree via the usual channels.

What I’m listening to this week: Daughter, Dry The River & Professor Penguin.

What I’m reading this week: 1Q84 (Parts 1 & 2) by Haruki Murakami

Stay tuned.

Pursehouse.

Need A Website Coder To Partner

January 9th, 2012

We are changing the format of the Songs2Share.com website to an all free INDIE music download website. We’ve got the music upload and music download feature already built. I need a website coder to make a template for artists/songwriters to post a brief bio and links to their buy music websites. I’m cashed out & will exchange business ownership for the work.

I also need the Word Press Blog updated to the newest version. I will continue to post there and invite guest bloggers to build traffic. If you know a coder, please pass this on to them.

Fondly,
Roberta Annicks
Founder & Lyricist
www.Songs2Share.com

Monday Inspirations

December 26th, 2011

Monday InspirationsHere are 3 weekly ideas for song lyric, poems, instrumental titles, photos, video, short story or anything they inspire you to create.Use the title if you like & make something! It is yours for free. A gift. :-)

174.  Happy Nice Pill
Loking at his face getting old, crabby, the lobotomized gloom; listening to his voice, mechanical, seeing the colors and hearing the sounds that swirl about him, alls I can say is “Don’t you have a Happy Nice Pill you can take?”

175.  HONOR
8-28-10 Just watched some of the Restore Honor Rally that Glen Beck and Sarah Palin hosted at the Lincoln Memorial in Washington D.C.  He challenged the audience to get their hearts right, to be truthful.  I’m feeling ya’ Glen!  Looking at that powerful word = HONOR = what do you feel?  Can you put that feeling in sound, song, art or story?  I challenge you.

176.  Poison & Sugar
You’re Poison & Sugar in the same pill baby.
Make me rock out before my head rolls
and rolls and truth be told
You gotta’ take a little pain
to rub against the gold.

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